Marital distress is one of the most frequently encountered and disturbing human problems. Everyone who
is married experiences difficulties, but for some, these troubles reach the point that partners become profoundly disappointed
and upset about their marriages and may even come to question whether they want to continue to remain married. Marital distress
is very unsettling and the ways marital problems often progress make it easy for things to go from bad to worse. However,
in most situations, this flow in a negative direction can be altered. Most marriages can return to being satisfying. Sometimes
people can make these changes on their own, but frequently help from a couple therapist is needed (excerpt taken from the
website of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy).
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have specialized training in helping couples identify, negotiate
and resolve problems that are leading to marital distress and unhappiness. I can help you build or rebuild skills that work
in marriage, such as healthy communication, problem solving, and how to argue without inflicting too much pain. I help partners
work to see each other as equals, to appreciate each others' strengths, and to negotiate differences in ways that increase
intimacy rather than destroy it.
Healing emotional wounds inflicted in marriage is not an easy
process. However, with proper care, the process of healing often leaves a couple stronger, happier, and more intimate .
Even if I do not seem to be a good fit for you, I would highly recommend that you seek out a Licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist for any couples therapy. Although many counselors say they work with couples, they often do
not have the specialized training necessary to be effective with couples. These counselors are often very good on a one-on-one
basis, but they are less effective when there are two or more clients in the room. When a counselor has the LMFT credential
behind their name, they have undergone a more rigorous and stringent training and licensing process. Although there are no
guarantees, an LMFT is more likely to have the experience you need to help your relationship. Feel free to call me for other
names of highly credentialed therapists in your area. You can also go to the Idaho Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
website (www.idamft.org) to find other licensed marriage and family therapists and to learn more about LMFTs.